There is no shortage of leadership advice out there. Books, blogs, conferences, and podcast to name a few are all available to anyone wanting to grow as a leader. We should take advantage of all of them and never stop developing our leadership potential.
In the midst of the all the noise there is one principle that I believe we should never lose sight of. That is the principle of being you. In my earlier years of ministry I noticed that I was very different from most “young preacher boys.”
- I didn’t wear suits
- My shirts were usually un-tucked
- I had a beard
- My hair wasn’t slicked back
- I have never owned cuff links
As I saw these things about me I attempted to do something that we as leaders should never do, I attempted to be someone else. Here is what happened, I started to get exhausted. Trying to keep up certain appearances, as someone else is exhausting!
Dr. Jack Graham, Pastor of Prestonwood Baptist Church in Plano Texas, said something once that has always stuck with me. He said, “Nothing will burn you out quicker than faking it.”
He is right! This is true spiritually and physically. Spiritually you don’t have to conform to man made practices ideals. I see this with marriage advice. Not every marriage requires a weekly date night or nightly devotions that unpack your love language. Find out what works for you and do that. The same is true spiritually.
- You don’t have to get up at 4am and do a quiet time.
- You don’t have to journal everyday of your life.
- You don’t have to have blog.
- You don’t have to write a book.
- You don’t have to fast every Thursday.
- You don’t have to read 1,000 books every year
Physically you don’t have to conform to man made practices either. Dress, walk and act like you and not someone else, be you! I am not advocating for laziness here. Be the best version of you, but ultimately be you!
- You don’t have to be a morning person to be a good leader.
- You don’t have to have to be an extrovert to be a good leader.
- You don’t have to get up at 3am and go to the gym to be a good leader.
- You don’t have to shave your beard.
- You don’t have to have a “slick” hair cut.
- You don’t have to drive the cleanest car.
The point is to be you. Not a lazy version of you but the best version of you! Find out who you are and how God has wired you and grow from there. Anything else is faking it and you will eventually get tired and exhausted as a leader.
I love this verse:
” Let each person examine his own work, and then he can take pride in himself alone, and not compare himself with someone else. 5 For each person will have to carry his own load. 6 Let the one who is taught the word share all his good things with the teacher” Galatians6:4-6